The Door to your heart
While visiting a friend in California, I was on a walk atop the bluff that followed the coast. The one-way street was lined with beautiful homes and gorgeous views. As I walked, I noticed that many of the homes had added details to their entrances and front doors. Every time I saw a beautiful wood door outlined with carved details and a blooming rose bush that climbed atop the trellis above, all I could think of was how much I wanted to walk through the door and see the inside of the house. I was drawn in and wanted to be a part of the people’s lives who lived there.
The color of red roses and lush green foliage that boarded a metal sculped gate adding an element of sophistication was so elegant that I just couldn’t help but be mesmerized about who might live there, what their house looked like and the beautiful décor I’m sure that made up their interior. The entrance to their home, I’m sure, reflected what was inside, and I wanted in!
House after house, door after door, and gate after gate, the beauty was all quite stunning and with the warm sun shining down and the peek-a-boo looks of the waves and never-ending horizon of water, it made me think, “Isn’t that how it works with people too?”
You see, I have a door to my heart. We all do. And after my walk and observation I keep thinking, is the door to my heart inviting? Do I give a presence of beauty, love, and openness that energetically invites my children or even other people to come to me? Do I have positive energy, kindness, generosity, and affection that would encourage them to desire a connection with me?
Or am I run down? Dark? Negative? Who would want to walk through that gate? Who would want to approach someone who is grumpy?
Let’s reverse this slightly, just because you have a biological DNA connection to another human being doesn’t mean your son or daughter owns you something, and how they PRECIEVE you greatly encourages or discourages them from being close to you. The question to ask is, “Do they feel drawn to you, or do they feel they are being pulled to you?
What’s the difference? Let me explain.
When we feel PULLED by our parents it is out of obligation and expectation. It’s an undertow of our parents wanting something from us with their motivation of being self-served. The pulling services the parent.
When we are DRAWN to our parents, our hearts feel an invitation. Their energy is based on selflessness and has roots based on love. It’s about your parents receiving you as you are. Not needing anything from you and just having pure joy that you are in their presence.
We, as people, can FEEL the difference! It’s often something you can’t even put your finger on, but it is a very real thing.
Just reading this article has probably brought up feelings inside of you that may be positive or negative about your own relationship with your parents. Most of those negative versus positive feelings can be traced back to a place where as a child you felt pulled (negative) or drawn (positive). Funny how even after so many years you still can feel the difference, yes?
As a parent yourself, I encourage you to press into this and see how you can learn and grow in this area of being so incredibly beautiful, loving, and kind-spirited that your son or daughter is drawn to you because the entrance to your heart is so warm and inviting that THEY WANT to spend time with you!
This particular place requires no words, it’s just about who you are as a person and whether you are working towards having an entrance to your heart that draws them in.
Much Love,
Angela
P.S. This blog picture was taken on my walk in CA which inspired this article.
